Tuesday, August 16, 2011
The positive discipline disciples will echo this and will tell you to speak in an even voice and use matter-of-fact language when correcting behavior. The problem is that that approach is extremely unsatisfying. I've come to really enjoy yelling and just speaking matter-of-factly doesn't feel like it's actually accomplishing anything. So I've decided to go in another direction. I whisper.
Turns out that whispering is incredibly effective with Finn. He'll immediately (usually) stop what he's doing and really pay attention to what you're saying - since I'm guessing he can't really hear me and wants to make sure he's not being offered a cookie. Regardless, it's become a very dependable means of halting bad behavior without him just tuning me out.
Of course, it helps that whispering really, really annoys Finn in general. I mean, he really hates it. I was walking him downstairs this morning, whispering that we were going to sneak up on his Mommy - to which he reacted by hitting me in the face for whispering. In his defense, he was still waking up and he did ask me to stop whispering... twice... which I didn't.
But that doesn't make it right. You'd better believe I was upset. And you know what happens when I'm upset with Finn.
That's right. He got a good whispering-to.